What Is “Black Tie Optional”? The Most Confusing Wedding Dress Code, Explained
So you’ve been invited to a wedding where the dress code is "black tie optional” and find yourself, well, a little confused. Whereas black tie comes with its own standard set of rules—the style of dress has been the sartorial status quo since the 19th century—the addition of “optional” is a relatively new phenomenon.
And one that can feel like a mixed message at that—do they want you to wear a floor length dress or not? “Nothing poses a getting-ready quandary quite like ‘black tie optional.’ It’s vague and can result in guests wearing a hodgepodge of looks that are all over the map when it comes to levels of formality,” Alexandra Macon, Vogue contributing editor and co-founder of wedding web and e-commerce site Over the Moon says.
Below, we break down the black-tie-optional dress code for wedding guests everywhere.
What Is Black Tie Optional?
“Black tie optional to me means the couple does want black tie but doesn't want to pressure their guests to wear tuxedos and evening gowns since those tend to be more of an investment. So when the dress code calls for black tie optional, feel free to go all out,” bridal stylist Anny Choi tells Vogue.
Essentially: the couple wants their wedding to look like and be a formal affair—but understands that implies fancier (and often more expensive) attire for guests. So they’re giving guests more aesthetic leeway to avoid any undue stress or burden to those who may not be able to wear a tuxedo or evening gown.
What Should I Wear to a Black Tie Wedding?
“I would try to wear floor-length dresses if possible,” Choi says. “If this is not an option, put in an effort and dress up your look with the right accessories. If your dress is on the shorter side, or if you opt for a jumpsuit or pants, make sure your shoes feel dressy–this doesn't necessarily mean heels; an embellished flat or a sharp lace-up oxfords could be appropriate options too.”
Emily Post Institute offers a similar definition: “A black-tie optional dress code gives guests a couple of formal options to choose from. Men are requested to wear a tuxedo, but can opt for a dark suit. Women can choose either a formal evening gown, a shorter cocktail dress, or dressy separates.”
What Shouldn’t I Wear to a Black Tie Wedding?
Make sure your dress, jumpsuit, or set comes in a formal fabric: “Cotton or linen sun dresses will look out of place and I would opt for silks, chiffons, or taffeta,” says Choi. In addition, stay away from casual footwear. “Just avoid day sandals, raffia wedges, and so on,” Choi says.